Wednesday - November 26, 2008

schoolgirl described as “fit, healthy and popular” killed herself because she felt fat and ugly.

This is really a depressing story.  Reason for me posting it here is because I’ve so far ignored (or tried to) ALL THE OTHER LIKE STORIES over the last couple of months of young suicides.  It bothers me a lot when young kids with so much to live for and with a future in front of them, decide for whatever reason that they have no future.

I realize there are one or two that didn’t mean to actually kill themselves but meant instead to scare the parents or play some dumb game that went horribly wrong. 

Earlier this year there were something like 15 (possibly more) suicides from just one town over here. Or maybe it was one general area but I’m fairly certain it was a town and the name escapes me.  The fact is, there are an alarmingly large number of kids who have tried and failed or actually did kill themselves.

Why is it that a young girl would do this and what make a young girl feel “fat and ugly” to the point of suicide?

I hadn’t given it a whole lot of thought before but I know womens groups and not just the ones Rush calls feminazis, have been complaining about the way women are used in ads and portrayed as stick thin icons of what the ideal is supposed to be.  Maybe I have it all wrong but I’m wondering if they don’t have a valid point.  Maybe this poor kid just wasn’t talking to her mom enough if at all. 

I think the images young girls are trying to live up to these days are ALL WRONG.  Sad that they don’t understand that.

Perfectionist schoolgirl hanged herself while worried about appearance
A perfectionist schoolgirl described as “fit, healthy and popular” killed herself because she felt fat and ugly, an inquest heard.

By Paul Stokes
Last Updated: 3:36PM GMT 26 Nov 2008

Imogen D’Arcy, 13, spent the weeks leading up to her death searching internet sites for information on anorexia and suicide.

The lyrics to the song Courage, by the group Superchick, about personal suffering and not eating were also found on her computer.

Imogen’s father Paul, 51, found her hanging from the bathroom door by the flex of his laptop in the bathroom of the family’s home in Adel, Leeds.

After he had freed her and attempted resuscitation, Mr D’Arcy noticed a note in her handwriting which had been left on the toilet seat.

He said: “I took it to the bedroom and read the first paragraph but I couldn’t read any more. It appeared Imogen had a problem with her body image, she felt fat and ugly. This is not true she doesn’t have an ounce of fat on her.”

Imogen was transferred from hospital to a hospice and a decision taken to switch off her life support machine after eight days.

Mr D’Arcy and his wife Susan, 40, both charter quantity surveyors, were convinced that their daughter, who enjoyed playing football and running, did not have a eating disorder.

But the Leeds hearing was told that soon after her death they found out about websites the Bradford Christian School pupil, considered head girl material, had been visiting.

Imogen, who has four sisters aged three to 18, had been for a haircut with her mother on the day she died last December.

Her mother had shouted at her when she refused to tidy up the children’s toys before she was left in the house with her youngest sister while the rest of the family went shopping.

SAD STORY

More of this sad story at the link.

Posted by peiper     on 11/26/2008 at 11:18 AM   
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