Sunday - August 31, 2008

Why should we be wedded to the ideal of marriage?  Is marriage outdated ?

If you go the link you’ll need to scroll down a short way to catch this. There are other things by this writer and some interesting comments.

I thought I’d post this here to see what our readers think about this.  Maybe she’s correct but perhaps only for some ppl.

My marriage truth to tell is a joke and has been for ... gee ... I never remember how long.  Ah, wife reminds me married 38 yrs in July. I was too frightened to ask exactly what day in July. We’ve been together for 40 years and I can’t imagine anyone else putting up with me and the career moves I’ve had.  Now when I say our marriage is a joke, I should explain that’s how our mornings start and our days end.  No matter what’s happened during the day, even if we’ve had a disagreement of some kind, the day ends with some wacky silly gag or practical joke.  My wife is somewhat better at practical jokes then I am.

We’ve been thru some very ruff patches it’s true.  Was a time when we weren’t sure it would last a lifetime.  I recall once when we gave some thought to living in seperate places BUT .... at the time we thought by seperate places it should be adjoining apts. or houses.  Nothin’ came of that happy to say.

OK, I’ve had my say.  Now over to you.

Why should we be wedded to the ideal of marriage?
By Melissa Kite
Last Updated: 12:01am BST 31/08/2008

Now that record numbers of pensioners are divorcing, we should really try to be honest about what is happening to that fine old institution, marriage.

We need to be rigorously truthful with ourselves about why 13,678 people over 60 were divorced in 2007, up from 12,636 the previous year and from 9,052 in 1997. We also need to be realistic about why marriage rates are at the lowest level since records began in 1862.

It is painful to let go of dreams. But the simple and unappealing fact is that marriage was a useful institution when women had no possessions of their own and men needed sons and heirs to pass theirs on to.

It was invented as a commercial solution and has now outlived its commercial usefulness. People still fall in love, want to live under the same roof and raise children. But when they fall out of love, they don’t feel they should prolong the arrangement.

Politicians offering tax breaks to keep us together miss the point that couples now marry and break up in the pursuit of happiness. They will stay together for love, but not money.

And when even empty nesters think it is better to embark on an adventure in their sixties rather than stay in a stale relationship, we should accept what is screaming out at us.

Marriage as a lifetime contract is dying. We need to get over our obsession with preserving it at all costs and move on to pastures new.

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Posted by Drew458     on 08/31/2008 at 11:31 AM   
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