Why Marriage Eludes the Modern Woman
on 12/01/2011 at 12:52 AM
There are two ingredients to a healthy marriage: “good food and good sex.”
I always though variety in both was the ultimate in good a relationship.
Stick to the basics. Add variety later. Let’s not bicker on the details. And don’t forget, that quote is from a woman.
Actually, that’s a good subject in a world where it almost seems as though many aren’t. Married that is. There’s articles on the subject about both sexes being uncomfortable about trust, and the price paid by one or the other if divorced years later.
I personally think a good marriage has to consist of communication too. After all, when the food is consumed and the sex is over, what then? I mean, it’s nice to have someone you can also talk to and where both understand each other.Oh, I forgot to say thanks for that link. She’s on the ball. (no pun intended)
Good writer, reads fast and I think she makes good points. The feminists have done harm where they may have intended good. What’s that old line about the road to hell being paved with good intentions? In their case however, I often question the good intentions part. Like Communism, they deny human nature. Deny? They don’t even know it exists outside their closed world. Good link sir.Glad you liked it peiper. My bishop sent this to me. We’ve been talking about life and marriage quite a bit lately.
Ah but she missed the very reason the feminazis were so dangerous and why I parted ways with the ERA early on - the feminazis don’t want to be equal to men - they want to be better and control men.
I don’t have enough time or energy (never did) to get into that. The feminazis took away Home Ec and look what we have - obesity, rampant illegitimate birthrate, abortion, divorce gone wild, and a bunch of p*ssed off women.
Like all liberal/social engineering schemes - it doesn’t work. Never has and never will.
I give a 100% and my husband gives 100% - it’s been easy when we have both done all that we can to keep this family a family. We can talk and I hope that in the past 27 years - that the food has been good. And the sex - well as a female comedian once said (and I took to heart) - “marry a younger guy - they don’t know what their doing, but they can do it all night” Works for me.
Well stated wardmama. Unlike some, I do not believe marriage is a 50-50 thing. It’s all or nothing. Each partner gives 100%. Otherwise you end up arguing about who gave the required 50%.
Gee ... all this naturally leads me to think of another take. In a manner of speaking.
I always felt my wife gave up a bit more then I did, to accommodate my profession.
For a number of years we were never really settled anywhere. Radio was not all that secure and especially at the beginning before one gets established. And to be very truthful, I very much doubt I’d have had any kind of career but for her. And she worked full time as well. There were periods, thankfully very short, when I wasn’t working at all. And when it came to money guys, I was very immature. Never balanced a check book in my life. So she did that that and hey ya know, that’s work. I watched her do it. I just never got the hang of it. She once had a really good job at the phone company that could have lead to better things. Heck, if she’d a stayed there she’d be retired on a pretty good pension. But she left when I got the call to work at some station heaven knows where, for less then she was making at AT&T. She also once worked for IBM, UK and was doing well. Could have worked IBM,USA I think. I suppose those jobs just weren’t important enough to her, and I couldn’t see myself working anywhere but radio in those years. And my wife knew from the day we started dating that my goal was radio so she was prepared for that lifestyle.
I also believe the term 50/50 referred more to the idea of give and take. I never thought of it as a numerical count of who did what how often. But just as often I also believe that marriages are like 60/40 due to the sort of lives we lead. And as Wardmom says, being able to talk to one another counts for a lot. The times we’ve had trouble were always the time when one or the other didn’t communicate. And one thing is certain, you never but never end the day on the downside and go to bed angry. That just does not work. Anyway, I think I’m damn lucky because to be honest, I sometimes find myself not all that easy to live with and wonder how she has. I think it’s my sense of humor which isn’t displayed here too often.This might just be me, but I’d take your insecure radio career over my recently ended postal career. I think your career was probably a lot more fun than mine.
Yes, you are damn lucky, so am I, when I stop to think about it. Why these women put up with us I’ll never know.
Peiper, you should consider working this into a front page BMEWS article, not just a comment. Also, learn how to balance your checkbook. Very important. You should be able to do your own taxes too. I’ve done mine/our taxes since I was declared an adult. Still don’t feel like an adult, but they say I became one at age 18.
Oh, wish me luck. I was talking to a guy at the local Pizza Hut today. Seems they are really hurting for decent employees. No less than eight stores in the Dayton area need general managers, asst. managers, etc. All the stores have reverted to corporate ownership. No more franchises. I last flipped a pizza in ‘79, but I applied anyway. I’m really rather shocked they need people in this economic environment. I’d have thought they had more than enough. Back in ‘79 I did the ‘acting manager’ thing while the manager was hospitalized. So I’ve some experience. I managed to keep the store open, staffed, and order enough food to continue service. Not bad for a 19-yr-old.
Nobody wants to be the pizza manager because the drivers get all the tips.
Yup, checkbook and taxes. Good basic people skills. Plenty of other ones are needed too, right down to the smarts to always buy quality knives for the kitchen and the ability to keep them sharp.
Sure, variety is the spice of life, but spice is the variety of life. Want togetherness? Learn how to make His ‘n Her curry ... and you both eat the results, especially when things don’t come out right. Nothing like laughing through the burning tears to hold a little mirror up to life. No powdered spices or pre-made ingredients allowed. Chop and grind everything by hand, right down to making your own ghee the day before. When you finally get it worked out - from the shopping all the way to doing the dishes - you’ll be a synchronized team. Keep at it and you’ll have a skill that will impress the heck out of friends and family, that the two of you can whip up dinner for 6 out of a bag of stuff in just 15 minutes and it tastes great!
Yes, you’ll probably fight and bicker along the way, especially since you’ll have to learn to pace yourselves to each other and the stove. Almost just like bowling. But the end result is worth it.
Not a problem. They already told me ‘no’.
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