I thought I’d heard the last (for awhile) on this topic. But this morning’s column by one of my favorite people really woke me up. I had not heard much about what she’s writing here. Which btw I’ve edited. See full column at the link.
Anyway, I had not realized the extent of the thinking here and didn’t even know we had it in the USA as Miss Phillips describes.
I don’t understand how people come to believe these things. How do they come to these things? Do they go out looking for it? Make things up as they go along? What? How come they can not see how stupid it all is.
But ... I heard something on the radio late last night, after my computer crashed and I spent an hour with tech in India. Happily I got someone I understood, but it still took an hour. By the time we were through I wanted nothing more to do with puters. Too tired even to read, I turned on the radio. The topic was not this story about the loon and her little boy/girl. But while reading Phillips here, I immediately recalled the radio program. Let me share a bit of that and you’ll see a weird connection.
The program was about a newly emerging industry that deals with stag nights. Yeah, stag nights. Ah but with a difference. Apparently, Krakow (Poland) is host to groups of Brit guys enjoying their last freedoms. Kind of. There are actually companies that arrange tours, depending on what is paid determines how long your stag vacation is. Usually it’s a whole weekend. Yes, the guys do get pie eyed however, there isn’t the usual (we are told) stag films of old or sex for sale kind of thing. It’s supposed to simply be a group of friends enjoying the company of a guy about to become married. The groups are controlled quite expertly by a lady guide. They are taken from one bar to another and visit various city attractions etc. All very civilized we were informed. And here’s the part that you might say really woke me up. It was to be quite honest, a bit embarrassing to listen to.
One of the guys on the program is a reporter who spent many months following this newest thing. The guided stag tour of Krakow. He interviewed the guys and drank with them, nothing sneaky because he wasn’t trying to uncover anything illegal. And then he came to this.
It was noticed how these guys have not acted in the expected macho traditional male on a bender (tho they were on quite a bender) way. Here were guys he said, who were straight but not afraid to touch each other. Not in a sexual way, but more or less we are informed, in the manner that women bond with their friends. They aren’t embarrassed or afraid to touch and show a softer side. They were more touchy feely I suppose. They were less the masculine stereotype.
I guess times have changed and apparently some men have too. But I think it’s manufactured. I just can not imagine guys having a girls night out.
Well, not if they’re straight anyway. It just doesn’t seem natural.
You’ve got to be a few sequins short of a tutu to raise your son as ‘gender neutral’
By MELANIE PHILLIPS
For more than three decades, Left-wing ideologues have been determinedly unravelling sexual and gender differences — on the grounds that the very idea that people are different amounts to a kind of prejudice.
Bizarre as it may seem, what started as a campaign for equal rights progressed into a movement to abolish altogether the differences between men and women.
This movement consisted of an alliance between, on the one hand, radical feminists who were consumed by hatred of men and, on the other, gay activists intent upon blurring the distinction between hetero-sexual and same-sex unions.
What arose from both was a push towards androgyny, based on the false belief that biology had little to do with gender differences — which were instead said to be artificially constructed by society.
Denying the biological facts of life in this way might be considered a form of lunacy. Indeed, scientists have shown there are many differences between male and female brains. And in general, men and women clearly have different approaches to their environment, relationships, children and so on.
Nevertheless, promotion of androgyny has become a kind of default position among progressive thinkers, writers and politicians.
It all started with the idea that men and women should have interchangeable roles both at home and in the work-place, and that fathers were no longer essential to the family unit at all.
Right from the beginning, however, there was a deeper agenda to redefine relations between men and women by nothing less than redefining men and women themselves.
Accordingly, radical feminists such as academics Judith Lorber and Susan Farrell wrote with a straight face that ‘being a woman and being a man change from one generation to the next’.
And the immensely influential psychologist Sandra Bem wrote that to free people from ‘culturally imposed’ definitions of masculinity and femininity people should become androgynous, adapting male or female behaviour according to their situation.
This would mean, she gleefully predicted, that distinctions between male and female would ‘blur into invisibility’.
Astonishing as this may seem, this madness has now become mainstream. For example, the Council of Europe, no less, has drafted a definition of gender as an artificial social construct which has little to do with biology.
In the U.S., some therapists have demanded ‘genderless models of marriage and parenting’.
Recently, the California Teachers’ Association held a conference advocating ‘gender liberation’. It issued instructions on ‘gender etiquette’, which said it was polite to ask people with which sex they identified — and, accordingly, by which pronouns they preferred to be described. The instructions added helpfully: ‘Each of us can decide for ourselves in which bathroom we belong.’
And a few months ago on U.S. TV, a ‘gender coach’ was filmed indoctrinating children that they could choose whether to be a boy or a girl.
It all sounds too ludicrous to be true. In fact, it is deeply sinister. Our society is being brainwashed into pretending that the differences between male and female don’t exist — in order to reconstruct society into some unattainable utopia of sexual and gender identicality.
The dual goal is to marginalise men and to upend society’s fundamental moral codes. Having first been told they can behave sexually in whatever way they want, people are now being told they can be sexually whatever they want. And anyone who objects to this will be told they are a bigot.
The result will be an increasing tide of misery. Human identity is formed by the union of male and female. Sexual and gender differences lie at the very heart of what it is to be a human being.
Denying those differences to a child not only threatens that child’s own sense of identity and well-being, but also starts to unravel what it is to be a person.
Dressing a boy as a girl and pretending he can choose his gender is not merely bizarre and cruel. It is part of a wider agenda to re-order our society.
Far from ushering in a better world, this threatens to stamp out the individual right to know what we are, and to rob us of humanity itself.
Hey Peiper - It’s Kalifornia - what do you expect? I am glad to see someone point to the real roots of this crap - Man hating feminazis and gay people.
Easy Mama, it’s not everyone in California.
Thanks to political correctness, the MSM, militant liberals, welfare pimps and some serious Democrat Gerrymandering, most normal people here have been seriously marginalized and disenfranchised.
As far as gender goes, the whole idea of living in an androgynous society is pure insanity. It’s not even a question of ethics. Human beings are not androgynous. For everyone except a few unfortunates who have physical and emotional issues, it’s literally unnatural. Social norms have developed over the millenia for one reason only; they work. When men and women understand and celebrate their differences, honoring each properly, both will be stronger.
My estimate is that the current move for gender neutrality is driven purely by a bunch of militant lesbians and man hating women who took over the women’s rights movement in it’s early days. It’s really too bad, but it’s another situation we will have to deal with as part of rebuilding America.
I know - I lived there for 3 years and have many, many friends (and family) who have/are residing out there in LALA land. When I first read the original story I thought it was from San Francisco! And I guess in a way, I shouldn’t stereotype all of Cali for the morons who run San Fran and a few other of the really wacko places.
Social norms have developed over the millenia for one reason only; they work. When men and women understand and celebrate their differences, honoring each properly, both will be stronger.
Amen and it’s just that simple.
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